“Every moment waited is a moment wasted....”
“Your woman knows your weaknesses better than anybody. She knows
where you will falter and give up. She knows the degree of mediocrity you will
settle for. And, she knows your true capacity as a full man, a man of free
consciousness and love. Her gift, if she is a good woman, is to test you with
her darkest moods, over and over and over, until your consciousness is
unperturbed by feminine challenge, and you are able to pervade her with your
love, just as you are here to pervade the world. In response to your fearless
consciousness, she will drench your world in love and light.”
“Austerity means to eliminate the comforts and cushions in your life that you
have learned to snuggle into and lose wakefulness. Take away anything that
dulls your edge. No newspapers or magazines. No TV. No candy, cookies, or
sweets. No sex. No cuddling.
No reading of anything at all while you eat or sit on the toilet. Reduce working time to a necessary minimum. No movies. No conversation that isn't about truth, love, or the divine.
No reading of anything at all while you eat or sit on the toilet. Reduce working time to a necessary minimum. No movies. No conversation that isn't about truth, love, or the divine.
If you take on these disciplines for a few weeks, as well as any other
disciplines that may particularly cut through your unique habits of dullness,
then your life will be stripped of routine distraction. All that will be left
is the edge you have been avoiding by means of your daily routine. You will
have to face the basic discomfort and dissatisfaction that is the hidden
texture of your life. You will be alive with the challenge of living your
truth, rather than hiding form it.
Unadorned suffering is the bedmate of masculine growth. Only by staying
intimate with your personal suffering can you feel through it to its source. By
putting all your attention into work, TV, sex, and reading, your suffering
remains unpenetrated, and the source remains hidden. Your life becomes
structured entirely by your favorite means of sidestepping the suffering you
rarely allow yourself to feel. And when you do touch the surface of your
suffering, perhaps in the form of boredom, you quickly pick up a magazine or
the remote control.
Instead, feel your suffering, rest with it, embrace it, make love with it.
Feel your suffering so deeply and thoroughly that you penetrate it, and realize
its fearful foundation. Almost everything you do, you do because you are afraid
to die. And yet dying is exactly what you are doing, from the moment you are
born. Two hours of absorption in a good Super Bowl telecast may distract you temporarily,
but the fact remains. You were born as a sacrifice. And you can either
participate in the sacrifice, dissolving in the giving of your gift, or you can
resist it, which is your suffering.
By eliminating the safety net of comforts in your life, you have the
opportunity to free fall in this moment between birth and death, right through
the hole of your fear, into the unthreatenable openness which is the source of
your gifts. The superior man lives as this spontaneous sacrifice of love.”
― David Deida
