This is a product that has a unique angle in the market in that it focuses
on inner game and its role in relationships. The material comes from the
perspective of exclusive long term relationships (i.e. traditional
relationships), and getting the most out of one deep relationship with a woman.
Material Verges on Self Actualization
This program goes well beyond the...
realms of relationships with women and ends up focusing on your growth as an individual. The reasoning behind this according to DeAngelo is that you need to become a better man yourself in order to become Mr. Right and meet Mrs. Right. David takes material from some of his non-dating courses for business like Wake Up Productive on subjects varying from leadership, finding your purpose in life, making your day productive and living with a 'clean system' so that you build your energy.
realms of relationships with women and ends up focusing on your growth as an individual. The reasoning behind this according to DeAngelo is that you need to become a better man yourself in order to become Mr. Right and meet Mrs. Right. David takes material from some of his non-dating courses for business like Wake Up Productive on subjects varying from leadership, finding your purpose in life, making your day productive and living with a 'clean system' so that you build your energy.
This is all valuable stuff for your life - coming from my own perspective I
know how improvements in all these areas of my life have benefited my
relationships, so while you may not 'get' the link, trust me, it's there.
DeAngelo does a good job of explaining this link in the program and obviously
has chosen material based on his own progress (he gives examples of his own
recent relationships in the program to illustrate).
Practicality 10/10 - Thorough but Slow Learning with Many Exercises
The whole program is pretty slow with many exercises and examples. On the
positive side, if you are slow learner and like to work through exercises to
understand exactly the implications of what is being taught this will be
valuable to you. On the negative, if you get things quickly, this program will
probably be too long for you - it had me 'yawning' and wanting to get on with
it with some parts, and being very engaged with others.
Building Intimacy and Solving Relationship Conflicts
A lot of time is dedicated to dealing with emotions in relationships with
DVDs 5, 6, 7 & 8) dedicated to this. Concepts such as 'emotional waves' and
'holding space' will help you deal with a variety of situations in
relationships. I felt that the part on 'Facilitation process' is valid for a
'mature relationship', however, it requires that your woman have a certain
level of emotional maturity in my opinion to be effective. It came across as a
mini-course in being a psychotherapist.
Advice on Mrs. Right
Valuable content here on what your expectations should be for a woman, and
how she can bring a positive influence to your life and you to hers. This is
definitely for guys at an advanced level - if you can't hold up a relationship,
then it would be difficult for you to fathom starting here. For instance
DeAngelo identifies these as the Deal Breakers for a woman:
- You don't want a woman who will accept excuses for not doing what you
need to do
- You want a woman that can help you heal your emotional wounds (i.e.
everyone has them, and its through positive relationships that they can be
healed)
That's beyond the expectations of nearly every guy I've met - but the logic
is tight. The point here is - this program is pushing things to a new level in
terms of what you should expect from relationships with women, that may not be
for everyone (ever or yet).
Weaker Component - Personality Types (DVD 9)
I was looking forward to the discussion on personality types, since
obviously all women are not alike - and many guys need more guidance to use the
tools provided with respect to what situations may come up and how different
women may react. However, while DeAngelo normally does a good job on research,
this part came across as weak. He introduces some frameworks from "The
Five Love Languages", Myers-Briggs and NLP. This was overly simplistic in
many areas, which caused confusion in the students on the course at times.
Myers-Briggs has long lost 'validity' in the world of psychology as a reliable
tool, and there are better alternatives he could have used.
The Bottom Line
This is mostly a mindset, almost philosophical product, which has its value
but is not for guys who are looking for step-by-step techniques to apply in
specific situations, it's more complementary to those. For guys who have found
that their relationships with women have evolved in ways they didn't like in
the past, this product will be helpful for you. The majority of guys in this
position are self-sabotaging their relationships in some way, and this program
explores a wide variety of areas where you may be doing this.
This program is for advanced guys who want to get the most out of long term
relationships with women. It will make you think, reconsider your past
behaviors, and probably lead you to some simple but tough actions - if you have
the courage.