Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Putting Their Needs First?

There are some people who are able to put their needs first and to be there for others when it is possible. In this case, it shows that they are comfortable with their own needs and don't feel the need to ignore them.

Just as there are going to be others who only feel comfortable when they are taking care of others' needs. As a result of this, one is going to be there for others but they are not going to be there for themselves.

To have needs is part of being human, and this means it is not something that one can change. What is going to cause problems is when one doesn't feel comfortable with their own needs and always ends up putting others before their own.

The reason other people are likely to say that one is doing the right thing, as opposed to telling them that they need to focus on themselves first, is because of how needs are often viewed. If one acts needless and is always there for others, they are often described as being a good example.

When it comes to human beings, your foundation are your own needs.

Once these are met, you will have the energy to be there for others. If you were to deny yourself this and you're always there for others, you will be running on false energy.

The energy you get comes from the approval you receive from others. This is naturally going to have an effect on you, but it won't be the same as it would be if you were getting your real needs met.

So YEA,it is Okay for you to put your own needs first!

When you put your needs first, your life is going to be far more fulfilling than it would be if you were to always put others' needs first.

Guilt

The trouble with feelings is that they don't always reflect reality. Just because someone feels guilty, it doesn't mean they have done something wrong and just because one feels ashamed, it doesn't mean they are bad.

What it comes down to is how your caregivers treated your needs whilst you were younger.

In order to move beyond this challenge, you're going to need to grieve your unmet childhood needs. It might also be important for you to receive the positive regard that they denied you all those years.

This will allow you to get in touch with your true feelings and needs and to live from your true self. The assistance of a therapist, healer and/or a support group may be needed here.